The other day I received an email from a distraught Atlanta mom. Her 5-year-old is about to be suspended from preschool for having too many accidents. "If he is not potty trained after Christmas break," the school wrote, "we will have to ask him not to return to school until he is. We hope you understand."
My first reaction: No, the school needs to understand. The child's accidents have nothing to do "potty training" and everything to do with chronic, severe constipation. The boy has no control over his accidents, and ultimatums will not change that.